... boundaries ....
Nov. 23rd, 2007 09:52 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
ysabet_the_redIt occurs to me, in the leadup to OSDC, that I really need to work on my boundaries.
In the past, I've not so much had difficulty saying 'no', as making it stick. People don't like 'no', and often don't want to take it as an answer. Sometimes, they act as if you'd said yes, regardless of your consent.
I have problems with this. Compounded by the fact that I really, really hate repeating myself, this has led to some ... unfortunate circumstances, over the years.
The more immediate issue at hand is OSDC. Back in Feb/March, when a meeting was first called, I expressed my desire to be involved. At that stage, my help wasn't needed, it seemed, so I walked away and forgot about it for a while. This was fortunate, as other things in my life turned out to be somewhat pressing, and I was projected to be otherwise occupied during the major organisational phases.
A couple of months ago, I got a ping out of the blue, requesting me to do textiles for OSDC. The circumstances above had mostly disappeared or been postponed, so it wasn't too hard for me to work it in to my life, although stressful. It has been a valuable experience, and I've learnt a bit. But. It shows my inability to make 'no' stick.
I am hoping to learn to make 'no' stick over the next year.
In the past, I've not so much had difficulty saying 'no', as making it stick. People don't like 'no', and often don't want to take it as an answer. Sometimes, they act as if you'd said yes, regardless of your consent.
I have problems with this. Compounded by the fact that I really, really hate repeating myself, this has led to some ... unfortunate circumstances, over the years.
The more immediate issue at hand is OSDC. Back in Feb/March, when a meeting was first called, I expressed my desire to be involved. At that stage, my help wasn't needed, it seemed, so I walked away and forgot about it for a while. This was fortunate, as other things in my life turned out to be somewhat pressing, and I was projected to be otherwise occupied during the major organisational phases.
A couple of months ago, I got a ping out of the blue, requesting me to do textiles for OSDC. The circumstances above had mostly disappeared or been postponed, so it wasn't too hard for me to work it in to my life, although stressful. It has been a valuable experience, and I've learnt a bit. But. It shows my inability to make 'no' stick.
I am hoping to learn to make 'no' stick over the next year.
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Date: 2007-11-23 08:39 pm (UTC)